EFT Couple Therapy

When you feel disconnected from your partner, even the smallest interactions can feel painful—like walking through a minefield, or worse, like you’re completely alone.

Couples often find themselves stuck in negative cycles that feel impossible to break. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to stay stuck.

Our work is about helping you find a way out of those patterns and back into connection.

We guide partners toward building secure, lasting bonds—where both people feel seen, valued, and safe with each other.

Clients often come to us saying things like:

  • “No matter what I do, it’s never enough for her.”
  • “He shuts down just when I need him to be present.”
  • “Every conversation ends in a fight, so I’ve stopped trying.”
  • “I hate feeling like the nag in this relationship.”
  • “If they don’t even argue back, do they care at all?”
  • “I try so hard, but my intentions are always misunderstood.”

We’ve worked with couples navigating all kinds of relational pain and complexity, including:

  • Feeling like enemies instead of teammates
  • Life transitions: becoming parents, moving, career shifts
  • Betrayals, including infidelity or emotional abandonment
  • Fertility challenges
  • A lack of intimacy or sexual disconnection
  • Chronic arguments and escalating conflict
  • Depression, anxiety, or trauma that impacts the relationship
  • Grief and loss
  • Lingering hurts from the past
  • Ambivalence about whether to stay or separate

Some couples we work with are trying to reconnect. Others are on the edge of ending their relationship. Some aren’t sure whether they want to continue, and some are just beginning—hoping to lay a strong foundation with premarital work.

We specialize in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)—a powerful, research-backed model developed by Dr. Sue Johnson that helps couples repair trust and rebuild connection. Rooted in the science of attachment, EFT taps into the emotional undercurrents that shape the way we love, fight, withdraw, and reach for each other.

Here are the reasons we use it:

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy is the gold standard of couple therapy, using empirically-validated data. 70% of couples who receive EFT couple therapy display complete recovery from marital distress. 95% of the time there is improvement. It is helpful with those who are married, newly together or in a longstanding arrangement, and those considering separation or divorce but wanting to try therapy first. It is the only couple therapy backed by the American Psychological Association.
  • Emotional stuck points – not feeling connected, not trusting, or not feeling safe or secure with the other partner – are common to relationship distress and can challenge couples in finding intimacy and growth. Emotionally Focused Therapy offers a roadmap for transforming these relational obstacles into opportunities for vulnerability and connection. EFT targets the emotional bond of the couple, whereas other models of couples therapy focus on behaviors or communication techniques.
  • EFT does not take sides. Often couples think that the therapist is going to define who is right and who is wrong, but EFT is not a judge. EFT looks at the dance, the role each person plays in getting disconnected, and how to change the music.
  • You have it in you. We are wired for love and connection, and we have research that shows that we have someone to turn to when life is stressful, we are better able to manage the difficulty.
  • We build from the bottom up. We are all sensitive, vulnerable beings, and sharing those tender parts are what build connection. In a relatively short time, couples begin to recognize and eventually express their needs for love, support, protection, and comfort that are often hidden or disguised by the harsh or angry words used in repetitive self-defeating patterns of conflict or arguments with each other. Partners begin to “listen with the heart,” one of the cornerstones of EFT – which means listening not for the literal meaning of a partner’s words, but for the feelings that lie beneath. In return, the other partner is better able to respond from their heart in kind. This building of a “safe haven” in your relationship is the emotional focus of our work.
  • EFT can and does heal couples after an affair or other betrayal.

For therapy to be effective, it is imperative that both partners are present for each appointment; please bear this in mind when scheduling. Sessions are often recorded in order to track progress over time and for use in supervision; they are kept confidential within the practice and destroyed after use. This process will be reviewed in depth with your therapist.