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A toast on New Year’s Eve

Posted byrjlcounselingDecember 31, 2018Posted inUncategorized

The Bank of Bad Days

Posted byrjlcounselingDecember 26, 2018Posted inUncategorized

Gifts for yourself

Posted byrjlcounselingDecember 24, 2018Posted inUncategorized

I asked my body…

Posted byrjlcounselingDecember 18, 2018Posted inUncategorized

No feeling is final.

Posted byrjlcounselingDecember 15, 2018Posted inUncategorized

Posted byrjlcounselingDecember 14, 2018Posted inUncategorized

Who rekindled your spark?

Posted byrjlcounselingDecember 5, 2018December 5, 2018Posted inUncategorized

Reasons to Stay Alive, p. 142

Posted byrjlcounselingDecember 3, 2018Posted inUncategorized

Mind kind

Posted byrjlcounselingNovember 28, 2018Posted inUncategorized

Spectrum.

Posted byrjlcounselingNovember 23, 2018Posted inUncategorized

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The heart of therapy is the relationship - non-judgmental space where history and patterns are unraveled so they can be examined more easily. It is unlike any other relationship and provides a unique opportunity for true healing. #graceandspace #allfeelingsarevalid #therapyhelpsmakethemessymanageable #therapychangesyourview #sitwithyourfeelings #healingispossible #strengthandease
It feels important to recognize that the actions of others are a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves. When someone acts small, belittling, or insulting, there is a clear connection between their behavior and their internal world. Hurt people hurt people. #digdeeper #relationshipwithself #whatdoestheirchoicestirinyou #thelieoffalsepower #givebackwhatisnotyours #healingispossible #traumainformed #stopwateringdeadplants #graceandspace
Other people's judgements, for example. You can make the choice to give back what belongs to them and keep only what belongs to you. Relieve yourself of the weight. #getcuriousaboutyourbrain #givebackwhatisnotyours #healingispossible #freeyourselfofthem #howyouspendyourtimeishowyourtimewasspent #joyinbeing #stopwateringdeadplants #truthserumtherapist #reparentingoneself #digdeeper #depressionandanxietycantakemanyforms
"I'm mad!!" Language is a powerful tool. It allows discernment, recognition, the narrowing in on an exact notion. Naming our feelings is not something many of us were taught. We learned mad, sad, happy. Naming emotions accurately gives us a chance to learn what they're teaching us. They give us information with which to create strategies to diffuse their charge. They are not bad or good - they simply are. Emotions are a form of energy, forever seeking expression. By naming them out loud, we are effectively taking responsibility for them and owning them, rather than feeling owned by them. How are you feeling? #feelingsgiveusinformation #expandyouremotionallanguage #buildingresilience #mentalhealthisbeautiful #graceandspace #allfeelingsarevalid
I see you. #Repost @theempoweredtherapist • • • • • • For some, Mother's Day may feel complicated. Others may find it dreadful, or painful, or lonely, or joyous. Days designed to celebrate caregivers likely remind us of our own upbringing, our current parenthood, our future plans to parent, our inability to have children, our ongoing wounds related to childhood, or our decision to remain childfree. No matter what this day brings for you, it is valid, because you are valid. 💜 Some truths: not all mothers deserve to be celebrated, some caregivers deserve to be recognized but rarely are, and expectations to celebrate Mother's Day in a prescribed way can be harmful. 💜 Some people grow up with mothers worthy of celebrating and these folx may feel excited to celebrate their moms, not only on Mother's Day. Some of these folx may feel sad this year because they may not be able to be with their moms in person, or they may have lost their moms too soon. 💜 Some people grow up with mothers who feel difficult to celebrate and these folx may feel an ongoing sense of duty or obligation towards their moms on Mother's Day; they may wish they could acknowledge the complicated feelings they experience rather than having to set those aside to honor their moms. 💜 Some people grow up with mothers who don't deserve to be celebrated and these folx may be reminded of the pain they experienced growing up, or the hurt they continue to feel as they grieve for the mother they always wanted and never had. 💜 Sometimes the best way to spend Mother's Day is honoring all of the ways you have cared for, and nurtured yourself. 💜 To those of you for whom Mother's Day is challenging, I see you.
Happy mother's day. May you find strength and ease.
Sometimes the work reveals the both/and: It's BOTH true that our parents did the best they could with what they knew (which isn't an excuse, it simply is) - AND we didn't get what we needed as children and grew into adults seeking it from others. The opportunity lies in reparenting oneself, that is, assuring Little You that you're the adult in charge now and going to take care of him/her. What does Little You need Adult You to do and say now? What's the new story you want to tell Little You about How to Be? #reparentingoneself #whatdoyouneed #nurturingfromwithin #safetyandcare #takingcareofyourself #adultyouinchargenow #Repost @lisaoliveratherapy • • • • • • Oakland, California I shared this on Mother's Day last year and am sharing again before the weekend for whoever needs or wants it. We *need* nurturance from others, and we can also nurture ourselves. Sending you so much love. Take good care, friends. 🤍
Edited to add that both new and not new mothers are experiencing big feelings about their ability to handle "this." The "this" of evolving as a mother - parenting is neverending journey of learning, as our children age and we mature, too. "This" learning how to juggle parenting, caring for yourself and managing your own emotions, and collective grief around loss during the pandemic. You are not alone and there is support available. #maternalmentalhealth #parentingishard #forallmothers #postpartumsupportinternational #therapyhelpsmakethemessymanageable * * * There is a reason why you’re struggling and it’s not just because you aren’t cut out for being a mom.⠀⠀ When we’re sleep deprived, feeling an immense amount of pressure to breastfeed our child, and navigating new waters in our relationships, it can be overwhelming to say the least.⠀ ⠀ The worst part about it, is the shame. We feel shame because we might be buying into the story that it’s only us that’s struggling. You might be telling yourself you’re the only mom who feels resentful of the sleepless nights, your body becoming a constant food source, and losing closeness and intimacy with your partner.⠀ ⠀ Your friends who have had babies have only posted on Instagram how much they love their baby. How it’s like no love they have ever felt before. How postpartum is magical and nothing but cuddles and ease. Some of that might be true, but we’re always less inclined to share the hard stuff, mamas.⠀ ⠀ So if you’re feeling alone right now, know that you aren’t. On top of all this, you’re navigating a pandemic and something that is impacting literally everyone on the planet. Give yourself some compassion and know that you’re not alone...AND, you deserve support. Reach out to someone you can be real with, or find a therapist offering teletherapy (a lot of us are!)⠀ ⠀ #maternalmentalhealth #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #postpartummama #ppd #soontobemama #thirdtrimester #therapyformoms #vulnerabilityisstrength #validation #newmama
We cannot raise healthy children and have healthy families without addressing overall health, which includes mental health. #maternalmentalhealth #Repost @moomysmilk • • • • • Mood and anxiety disorders are the most common complication of pregnancy. Maternal suicide is a leading cause of pregnancy-related deaths. More postpartum women die from suicide than from medical causes. This is why maternal mental health is everybody’s business. Anyone with a mother has a stake in this. And that is all of us. ⠀⠀ * If this is everybody’s business, what can we do about it? First, we can value mothers’ mental health as much as physical health. We know that a mother’s mental health impacts her baby and later her child’s health. We need to recognize that we cannot raise healthy children and have healthy families without addressing maternal mental health. ⠀⠀ *⠀⠀ Second, we can recognize that getting mental health support and treatment is valuable and often the best thing a mother can do for her and her family. It takes courage and strength to get mental health support and treatment. We need to value taking care of our mental health just as much as we value, and often don’t think twice about, getting what we need for our physical health (e.g., going to our primary care physician). *⠀ Third, we need to redefine women’s health to include emotional health. As front-line providers for pregnant and postpartum women, obstetric providers are in an ideal position to support maternal mental health. Even women with low risk pregnancies, will have 12-15 visits in under a year, providing repeated opportunities to detect and address mood and anxiety disorders in the context of obstetric care. ⠀⠀ *⠀⠀ Maternal mental health is everybody’s business and must be part of women’s health care. Integrating care for mood and anxiety disorders into obstetric care carries the potential to reduce maternal deaths and improve the overall health of mother and families. As our nation gears up to address its maternal mortality crisis, efforts will fail if we do not take this opportunity to address the mental health of mothers across our nation.⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ ✏️Nancy Byatt, DO, MS, MBA 📖Quote by: Ernest Hemingway
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